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August 05, 2010

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TiB

Google stockholm syndrome and abusive relationships there is info onwhy it is hard to leave an abuser that you loved at one time. I dated an abuser for a year and Iknow the pain of letting go of this kind of person. They have tactics to manipulate and control their victims. My abuser....b2.....was extremely smart and cunning when it came to control and manipulation. He has learned to be an abuser for many years. It is all he knows and does it very well. I used to feel sympathy for him. Now I feel disgust and am extremely grateful for my support group who opened my eyes and gave me information in dealing with this kind of person. My life is back on track to finding the real one who is for me. I threw that shark back in the sea. Life is to precious to waste on certain people who cannot see that they have some huge problems that are dangerous to everyone around them. Trust me there are alot of good men out there who know how to treat a woman. Abusive men have had some serious childhood issues that they have never healed from. Find the man that is whole and complete. That is where you will find true love.

TiB

Men who are abusive also play the games of leaving you to gain an upper hand on control. I dated an abusive man for one year. I still cannot believe how hard he tried to manipulate and control me. He broke up with me but still wanted me to be his girlfriend in many ways. I reached out to a support group and learned the tactics of abusers. I finally told him goodbye and cut all contact. He tried one last attempt to say that our love was second to none. I turned my back on him completely and forever. I am so happy and free. I give thanks to all my supporters they were tremendous in helping me leave him for good. Trust me, you will get over the pain. Read about stockholm syndrome. You might understand why you feel the way you do. You will find better men. They are out there. Let him go and be happy that you do not have to live with such a monster anymore.

Jenni

Hi, my name is Jenni and I was in an abusive relationship for 11 years. My husband was abusive in every way a person could be abusive--physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually and mentally, and he was extremely good at it. Recently I did leave him but I am an emotional wreck since and I don't know how to get past it. First he calls and asks me not to divorce for a year so he can get help thru AA, which I agreed to, but now he seems to want the divorce and I am in such termoil because of this. And honestly, I don't think I want him! I don't understand myself or why this hurts so much and I cant let go! Please help me figure out what is wrong with me and how to get past this and to not let it bother me how he feels---God knows he has never cared how I feel. Thank you-----------Jenni

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