Talking to a client this week, I was reminded of a song by a now forgotten English group, The Searchers: “Don’t throw your love away”. It is a very old song indeed, and one that had slipped totally from my mind, until I listened to this lady talk about her abusive relationship.
Like so many abused women, she was throwing good love after bad. As her abusive partner became increasingly unloving; she responded by lavishing more and more love on him.
Should it have worked? In theory, yes. I remember once hearing that it is almost impossible not to respond to the love that someone gives you. Yet, you, and I, as abused women, know that this is not also always so.
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