Abused No More

When 'love flies out of the window'

Q: How long do the beliefs we learn in childhood condition our life? 

A: Until we consciously address them in adulthood.  First, of course, we have to become aware of them.   

At the moment, I am preparing a teleclass on relationships that I will deliver later this month.  As I started to think about where I learned the things that coloured my early (and not so early) attempts at relationships, my father’s words sprang unbidden to my mind:  

“When you get married”, he used to say, because he was speaking before living together became socially acceptable: “love flies out of the window.”   

What my regrettably cynical father meant was this: CLICK HERE to carry on reading.

"It's not about you!" Part 2

Last week I attended a weekend workshop, run by a man who is a world leader in his field.  It turns out that he is of a similar age, similar ethnicity and has a similar background to my abusive ex-husband.  He also exhibited similar behaviours and had the same kind of colouring and build.   

What does that tell me? 

What it tells me is simply that they both had the same kind of issues to deal with, and both preferred to visit their anger on others, rather than work through those issues.   CLICK HERE to continue reading