It’s not often that I include articles written by other people in my blog. However, what follows is an email I received in reply to a previous post. In it I spoke of my decision to speak of my abusive past with a man and the incomprehension with which it met.
Siobhan’s words touched me profoundly.
Still more important is her moving and powerful description of a good man. In my working life I hear so many women make misguided claims for abusive men who can behave nicely on occasion. And, yes, confusing the odd loving behaviour or statement with a loving temperament is the kind of ‘sleight of mind’ that I’ve been guilty of on more than once.
Gentle readers, it’s called persuading yourself that second best really isn’t second best. And in the end, that bad decision always comes back to haunt you. Which is why it struck me as so necessary to put in front of you – and me – the vision of a man who is ‘the real deal’. To discover the true description of a man who is 'the real deal', CLICK HERE